Being misstreated

[PeppiPatty]

Love what @kristin has said about where to sit.

this is for you @Troubled _One You rang your brother because it was high time that you took care of yourself.
Maybe....
this is just an idea: you could begin the meeting by saying only positives, how good he looks and how much you have missed him.

you can only take care of yourself and you could just say how it affected you.
Self punishment via: alcohol and drugs, like cleansing your own soul but try to stay in the present and what you could so you both doing. Now.

What does everyone else think??

I think that calling lifeline is a really strong thing to do.....

[Troubled_One]

Yes thank you for your concern.

I realised which I have not mentioned that my mother likes to stretch the truth over days and it can take this long to get a emotional answer out of her, and I believe it is because she is affraid to give in to my fathers feelings because this is something she has never done. I say this because I feel so bad now and is why I posted for help that this meeting probably should have happened on sunday but is arranged for tuesday. My brother and mother spoke and I told my brother it should be atleast on sunday but he and mum agreed on tuesday I know my time and knew this would be a long stretch to make it happen in regards to my feelings and emotion.

We will see tomorrow when we are together where everyone sits

[PeppiPatty]

@Troubled_One

Take care....we are here to listen to you get through the next 24 hours and after.
you have done nothing wrong or anything.

Are you going to call life line?
I just called them myself about what I'm going through.

[kristin]

Anne please take care. Here you are trying to support others and saying nil about whatever your own struggles are. Why don't you do an "Anne & Loopy blog" post and put us in the picture, please?

@Troubled_One have you heard we are having a virtual bonfire together to keep us safe through the night? We'd love you to join us , can you please bring something like marshmallows to toast? I think Anne's speciality is homemade scones 

Kindest regards, 

Kristin

[PeppiPatty]

Hi @kristin,

Thanks Ms Intuition. I'm fine, quite shaken up because got myself into a fix and too scared to call police. someone else did because there was someone fighting outside my home. living almost in the centre of a busy community brings problems like street fighting.

[PeppiPatty]

@Troubled_One,

how are you?

[Troubled_One]

@kristinhahaha yes I could make some ginger bread men 😛 When is this virtual bonfire?

@PeppiPattyI hope you are ok. I want you to know that with out you I possibly would not have even thought about calling my brother and I think you came at the right time 🙂

I am fine, our family spoke today about trust and we were all there to talk about it. I feel a bit weird still like maybe there is something I am missing or something I have not yet caught a grasp on but I am hopeful for the future now to turn out better.

[kristin]

Hey @Troubled_One 

Thanks so much for sharing your wonderful news with us. When family dynamics take a big step forward it can feel quite surreal can't it? That's a great first step as a family, and no doubt yuo'll all need to work on not allowing old and unhelpful ways of relating to slip back in. But you know it is possible to take a different approach and that is such a gift. Bravo to you because without your courage it doesn't sound like it would have happened!

It's also lovely of you to encourage Anne and to see how much she helped you to make this step. I hope she is travelling better today. @PeppiPatty how are you my friend?

Gingerbread sounds very yummy. Hmmm virtual bonfires happen whenever we feel the need. I would love us to be able to gather together around a real one!

Hope for more open and caring family dynamics endures...

Kindest regards,

Kristin

[Jon22]

It's a good start for you and your family. I hope it gets better as time goes.

[PeppiPatty]

dear @Troubled_One,

I'm surprised at your parents maturity on something so sensitive but it makes sense............if I think about it..........Jeepers.......you listen to your Counsellor, your parents listen to you.
from bad Parenting to good parenting????

I was a bad parent for my oldest son. unknown to me, he was drinking at young teenage age, fell into illegal substance abuse at about 18 years old. But I made sure he had years of therapy.....this decision does not help everyone but it was the right decision for my son. .
He now is grappling with MI. I've become someone he can trust and he listens to me now. He still will not take medication but he has upped his work.. I trust the universe will help him. He lives on the opposite side of Australia but have been allowed to visit him every year for a week.

So back to you...."
I feel that you are pulling this off.......:0)

something you already had in your unconscious and you have 'cared,' for yourself, .....it was like.....not just me but everyone online brought you to that conclusion but thank you so much. :0)

the nightmare Im going through now is that my blooming ex boyfriend heard about it and he keeps on coming over to check to see if I'm okay Last year, . he fell into drugs when he got this high flying job but he's cleaned his act up ..He's so annoying....but he took Arlo for a walk today for an hour.....wish he brought over some chocolate"........

Love to all online, @kristn can you bring some dark chocolate for the marshmallows on the virtual fire??