Dear lee,

Haven't forgotten you but I've been busy with my life then my dog, 'Arlo,' had been needing me /0) because he's had an operation

My friend, could you list down your part of this twisty story. Forget who's given you advise or have suggested you to do something.

Like this way.

For example :

1 Date. 2 . Activity or action. 3 Outcome
Like :

1: 3 November, 1966. 2; I called my mother
I said.........
She said..........

3: I felt sad that she answered angrily.

Or you could write

1: 2 November, 1966 2: spoke to my Dad. He was quiet but went into the dining room after I finished telling him about this last phone conversation with Mum.

3: I felt he was passive, I felt he was letting other people tell him what to do. It made me feel like wanting him to shake him because he will not change I felt and I still Feel confused. Must take this to Psychologist.

End of example.

So do you think you can do this Lee ?

It's not about remembering who did what and advising who to who but its about you giving yourself reason about owning what work you have done.

I can only tell you this in that You have given me bits of confidence in that I have gotten official go ahead to care for A little girl in crisis every Friday. I'm not writing ' it's you who's done this but your willingness to take advise and read different messages, acknowledge others and me : work through others dilemmas (and my stuff ) has given me a bit of the confidence to do something I've wanted to do.
So I can own where I've moved. Can you own what good stuff you have done in your family but also acknowledge where you have acted well?