Being misstreated

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Troubled_One 

Im just very tired and will get back to you in a few days. Your cool for contacting your brother on email. Unfortunately, he is not used to 'family,' or 'brother,' 

This is what matters Lee your brother....hood. 

Your Mum and Dad will work that out one day. I remember one year, my son was goi g through a very bad time and i spoke to my youngest son that he needed to be right there but he needed to just listen and take a back step while this time was going on. So..... foe 6 weeks, my youngest son stayed quiet and let him be the one who talked. The outcome is that they both show huge respect to each other and are close.

It feels like you didnt have that chance when you were younger. To know or to give each other dynamic times of respect. 

How can you start it now? Do you both like say.......having coffee together or playing cards or something ?

[Troubled_One]

@PeppiPatty  anne i could not agree more. its just the inbetween time is killing me. i am hoping a call in regards to the email will fix this but in the mean time my mind is a salad bowl.

what we can do. i dunno, he lives 2 hours from me and my knee is shot. i am hpoing the call is enough?

i think the important thing to remember here is, my brother is not just not used to me, but no used to my father and this is the premise i am trying to bring him in on. he is fine with my mother, but my father is the big catch. i live with my faather i see it all, i am just hoping he sees it to.

@Appleblossom  perfect to me is never perfect, things are always changing the the strive for perfection can be there. but not there so bad that you can not live. have things set the right way, then you can do what you want is what i mean.

[Appleblossom]

@Troubled_One

Yes a lot is in the striving. Go gently.

To all I have read and interacted with on line:

I am going to take some time away from the forums soon as I have to catch up on my work. But I will be back.

[Troubled_One]

Thanks @Appleblossom  its nice to know someone understands. i am hoping to i can rest and give myself some me time once this is resolved. i wish i could earlier but i do not see a way of doing this?

perhaps @PeppiPatty  can guide me in a way to do this?

[PeppiPatty]

Dear Lee.... @Troubled_One,

Ille do what i can but remember @Appleblossom and @Djneeshaand others are really clever also  oderators like  @NikNik and @CherryBomb 

[Troubled_One]

@PeppiPatty  anne you have been such a driving force for me, i do not wish to bombard you with things you can not help with. thanks for mentioning the other guys.

yeah @Djneesha  and @NikNik  and @CherryBomb  are good also to help me.

[NikNik]

Hi @Troubled_One

So great to hear from you. It seems like a lot has been happening lately - and heaps that I have missed!

May I ask, what is your overall goal/aim with this situation?

Sometimes, for me personally, I get lost in the detail and the little things, that I lose sight of what outcome I'm wanting (which often takes me off track)

Nik

[Troubled_One]

@PeppiPatty  i sent my brother another email just basically explaining that i did not organise things the right way in the first place and if we could talk about that. just something to not overwhelm him since my first big email i sent him.

@NikNik  well, my overall goal is to get my brother to understand that my father is there for him. yeah haha, i have been lost as well and your question made me realise what i want exactly. maybe you helped me see that.

[Troubled_One]

@NikNik  the only problem i am having is how do i get through until i talk to my brother?

[PeppiPatty]

This is certainly a @NikNik question. 😀