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31-07-2016 12:09 AM
31-07-2016 12:09 AM
My sister, Jane, suffers severe anxiety and dety pressions for years
Janes often been suicidal. She's on lots of medication and changes some ftom time to time as she feels they don't work well enough or have side effects. She's very overweight and spends her life sleeping or sitting. I've encouraged her to go for help when I can, but she doesn't follow up with therapists' recommendations. I've helped her at times with house chores, mainly washing up as she doesn't do it for months! It ends up a horrid job. Janes mived house 4 times within the past 5 years and I had to do the bulk of arranging and physical work for it. Her 17 year old son, Daniel, suffers ADHD and lives a similar life to Jane. Their general hygene isn't the best these days. Lately I worry about the way I feel about them. Ive resigned myself to the fact Jane could suicide any time. I feel overwhelmed with guilt as id be expected to take Daniel in and wouldn't cope with that. He rarely goes to school and is very stubborn. I've had family issues of my own and as much as I love them I'm feeling drained and need to get on with my life. I know I don't fully understand what Janes going through and she doesn't understand what I'm going through caring for her. I'm just feeling despondent.
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31-07-2016 12:12 AM
31-07-2016 12:12 AM
Re: My sister, Jane, suffers severe anxiety and dety pressions for years
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31-07-2016 04:24 AM
31-07-2016 04:24 AM
Re: My sister, Jane, suffers severe anxiety and dety pressions for years
Hello @Agnes1
Sounds like a few dilemnas.
I guess you are a bit older than your sister .. You dont have as much ethical responsibility as a parent. Not sure if it all should fall on your shoulders. Cant you get council workers get involved ... maybe you can use your caring role .. to help her access services in the community, rather than keep doing her dirty work.
I have visited a serious hoarder with Vinnies and it can get very difficult.
I was a little afraid my son would be like that and have been gradually focussing on him cleaning up his act and his room. It has involved me caring to make sure He DOES it .. not me ... It is often easier to do jobs myself ... but I have finally stopped that and I am picking them one by one .. and waiting and expecting proper follow through ... and being nice and not losing my cool .. but standing firm.
I cant stand firm on everything because I am physically disabled .. but I can on one thing ... gradually our arrangement is improving.
I lived with constant suicide threats from brother and sister .. it is awful and wearing ... whatever you think is a response to a terrible situation ... that is not to say your sister is a terrible person .. I never feel that way .. but sometimes "helping" does not help ...
Take care.
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31-07-2016 07:54 AM
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Re: My sister, Jane, suffers severe anxiety and dety pressions for years
Also I couldn't find how to edit my first post. 😊
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31-07-2016 08:10 AM
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