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05-06-2016 08:14 PM
05-06-2016 08:14 PM
I don't know what my next step is?
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08-06-2016 12:35 PM
08-06-2016 12:35 PM
Re: I don't know what my next step is?
Firstly - thankyou @kristilee84 for sharing your story with us.
It sounds like it has been a tough road for both of you over the last 6 months, and he may not realise it presently but as he becomes more well the support will be appreciated.
You may need to allow time for medications to work and for him to sort things out in his own mind. I know it is hard not to listen to what other people say but stay positive and go with your heart but more importantly don't loose yourself in all this. He may just need space and time as you may also need.
Maybe use this time to focus on yourself and your kids as he sounds like he has the support he needs in the hospital.
Continue to access these forum and connect with people. You sound like a strong lady - hang in there.
NickyNoo
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10-06-2016 05:53 PM
10-06-2016 05:53 PM
Re: I don't know what my next step is?
Hi @kristilee84
I completely agree with @NickyNoo - there could be a change in meds or treatment, which will take some time to settle. He might be embarrassed, he might be pushing you away, so many different things could be causing it.
One thing's for sure, you're not alone in your experience. There's a discussion here about @Purplewife 's experience with her husband in hospital. I'm not sure if she's experienced the sense of rejection you are - but what's clear is that we are also deeply impacted by our loved one's admissions to hospital.
@Attahua has also had quite a bit of experience of her partner going to hospital - which has been really tough aswell. Attahua, do you have any advice for Kristilee?
How are things travelling now @kristilee84 ?
Nik
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22-06-2016 07:20 PM
22-06-2016 07:20 PM
Re: I don't know what my next step is?
Hi @kristilee84,
How's things? I hope things are doing ok with you. I agree with @NickyNoo, perhaps this is time where you can turn inwards and care for yourself.
It's hard, I understand, when you really want to connect with your partner and he's pushing you away. The only thing that you have control of in this situation is yourself. So focusing on you and what you can do to make the situation better for you can be helpful. If your partner is pushing you away, and this is hurting you, then continuing to approach him may be setting yourself up for more hurt. Be upfront, let him know the impact of his behaviour. I'm not suggesting that you walk away altogether. But keep the door open for when he is ready to connect again. In the mean time, do what you need to do to care for you.
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25-06-2016 06:39 PM
25-06-2016 06:39 PM
Re: I don't know what my next step is?
Things have been really good. He has come back to me and im so happy. Its been over 2 weeks with him home and its been really good. He is now taking his medication everyday, I took a step back and he got in touch with me when he got out of hospital. Thank you for your comment ☺
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25-06-2016 06:40 PM
25-06-2016 06:40 PM
Re: I don't know what my next step is?
Things have been really good. He has come back to me and im so happy. Its been over 2 weeks with him home and its been really good. He is now taking his medication everyday, I took a step back and he got in touch with me when he got out of hospital. Thank you for your comment ☺