Looking after ourselves
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22-07-2015 04:23 PM
22-07-2015 04:23 PM
some tips
hey there all, ive been living with my partner of nearly 10 years, who has major depression. a councellor once mentioned to me that its a good idea not lose sight of the things that i enjoy doing ie crafts walking on the beach, listening to music , catching up with friends etc ect. it can be hard at times, we want to help them come out of it, but the chances of that are pretty slim, so we have to care from a distance, and not get caught up in there depression, because thats when we start getting depressed ourslves. even if this only helps one person, i will be happy with that. have a great day namaste xx
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22-07-2015 09:01 PM - edited 22-07-2015 09:02 PM
22-07-2015 09:01 PM - edited 22-07-2015 09:02 PM
Re: some tips
Namaste @hippyjingle67,
Self-care is soooo important.
Similar to what you describe as 'caring from a distance', I often think about caring for others as helping someone find their way through a forest. We can carry them and their weight out of the forest, and tire ourselves out, or we can stand beside them and point out obstacles and hurdles. This way they can find their own journey with our support, but we can also maintain our own energy. I think this can give us some distance so we can also focus on our selves too.
Can I ask how you find do you find time to do things you enjoy?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.
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22-07-2015 10:26 PM
22-07-2015 10:26 PM
Re: some tips
Hi @hippyjingle67,
Thanks for this reminder.
The best advice I ever had is that when you do go off to do your own enjoyable things don't feel guilty. Noone can be in any way made worse off by your enjoying yourself.
peace,
Carer101.
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23-07-2015 05:58 PM
23-07-2015 05:58 PM
Re: some tips
hey cherrybomb, my partner sleeps a fair bit so i have spare time all the time, when ime not doing stuff with him, or when i need to have a break, i just might jump in the car and go for a drive, i also have quite a craft obsession which i havnt done for awhile so thinking about getting all that out again. i have a gf at work who i have lunch with, most of my support is down in melbourne because thats where i am from, ive been living up here for the past nearly 10 years, and originally moved up here to be with my partner
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23-07-2015 06:00 PM
23-07-2015 06:00 PM
Re: some tips
thank you carer101 you are absolutely right there, its also about not getting stuck in a rut because your partner is depressed
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03-09-2015 05:59 PM
03-09-2015 05:59 PM
Re: some tips
i am at a bit of a loss there as I don`t drive, so i go for a walk, and get involved in things around the house like gardening ,cleaning ,computer, internet
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03-09-2015 06:33 PM
03-09-2015 06:33 PM
Re: some tips
thanks so much for your input shaz51 i really appreciate it. my thing is getting away from the house because other wise we get house bound. its a shame you dont drive, darl. do you have a bus/train route close to your house. i like to do that too just get on and get off at the end then turn aroun n come back public transport can be great when its on time xx hope your feeling ok pls feel free to chat to me again when/if you need to thanks darln have a great night xx
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03-09-2015 07:00 PM
03-09-2015 07:00 PM
Re: some tips
we live an hour away from the city , we live in a small country town, I love walking down to our little town and meeting everyone and having a chat , everyone knows everyone little town , then i go and visit my mum a few times a week which is great , thank you xx
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05-08-2017 12:44 PM
05-08-2017 12:44 PM
Re: some tips
I'm helping my son and his friend to write a book on local birds in our town (Mid NSW Coast).
We are just starting to learn about birds and any trying to learn as much as possible for the community book. Thanks Shaz 🙂
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05-08-2017 01:32 PM
05-08-2017 01:32 PM
Re: some tips
I'm helping my son and his friend to write a book on local birds in our town (Mid NSW Coast).
We are just starting to learn about birds and any trying to learn as much as possible for the community book. Thanks Shaz 🙂